The Valentine Issue, SEXCAPADE

6 Ways To Get Her To Go Down On You More Often

If there's one complaint that I get from most men regarding their women, it's that the ladies don't get down as often as the boys would like. And by get down, I mean on their knees. (read more)

If there's one complaint that I get from most men regarding their women, it's that the ladies

don't get down as often as the boys would like. And by get down, I mean on their knees.

Of course, while most guys would be content with their women just giving it a lick, I think that

not only should you expect a good lick, but your woman should be giving you sensations

unlike any other you have experienced in your lifetime. In the immortal musings of Chris Rock,

you want her to suck it as though the antidote were in it.

give her the antidote

And in order to make her believe that there is, indeed, an antidote within your loins, you must

make the endeavor seem like less of a "job" and more of a "pleasure."

That said, I hunted down women who rarely, if ever, go down on their men, and discovered

what the issue was. Now save for the women who just don't like sex and/or have low libidos,

here's what you need to do so that your girl is aching to give Hoover a run for its money.

1- Make it inviting

If you're all clean and fresh, and you've trimmed your hair to a respectable length, you are

literally making your genital area a pleasant place for her to go. It's important to present your

penis and his cohorts in the best light possible.

2- Present a challenge

Most women respond well to a challenge. And by challenge I don't mean suspending yourself

from the chandelier and getting her to jump for it. I mean saying things that will make her

want to give you the best oral sex experience of your life. Say things like, "I don't think I've

ever reached orgasm from oral sex," or "My favorite sex is oral sex, but unfortunately most

women suck at it and not in a good way." She will likely feel compelled to prove that she is

an oral sex master.

3- Be vocal about your pleasure

When she does go down on you, let her know that you are enjoying it and that she is giving

you the ultimate in pleasure. When she does something that feels fantastic, say so. Moan,

whisper things like, "oh yeah, right there," and let her know that when she goes down there,

you love every minute of it.

4- Give what you get

If you want her to go down on you, guess what? You will have to show her how great you

are at giving it to her as well. If you perform oral sex on her and make her legs tremble

with delight after she goes down on you, she will associate those feelings of utopia with giving

you great oral sex. You can even opt to get into the 69 position if you think that you can give

a great performance while you receive.

5- Make a game of it

If you can turn oral sex into a game every now and then, it can definitely serve to add some

excitement to the mix. In the spirit of challenge, the bet would be who can make the other

orgasm first via oral sex. You could do it simultaneously via the 69 position, or you could

always use a timer. Whatever you do, keep it light and fun.

6- Don't make her do it

Pushing her head down or inching your way up to bring your penis to her face will make her

feel as though she's obliged to perform on you, and that makes it more of a chore than a

pleasure. If she never gets the hint that you want it, then bring up the topic at an appropriate

time when nothing sexual is going on between you. Make it clear that you feel desired when

she goes down on you and that you enjoy that type of sex.

make her want it

If you like oral sex and want it more often, the aforementioned tips may serve to make your

sex life suck a little more in a good way.

But then, there are women who don't like performing oral sex and no matter what you do,

you can't change that. What I suggest is that early in the relationship, you make it clear what

you expect out of a relationship, and that includes sexual expectations. Every relationship

should be based on mutual trust, love, respect, and desire for sex.

If she flat-out refuses to go down on you, then perhaps you need to rethink whether or not

you want to spend your time with such a woman.

Of course, you should reveal that you are a giver in kind, but that you like to receive as well.

That way, she knows what she's getting into, or she won't get into it at all.

By Sean Gilbert M. Rukundo

CEO & FOUNDER