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Threesome rule no. 1
Establish the rules

You're going to have sex with two women and all three of you have your own rules and limits,
so understanding and respecting one another's comfort levels should be a top priority when
you're establishing your threesome rules.

Because your relationship with your woman will likely be affected by this new experience, you
need to be absolutely clear on which acts she's comfortable with -- and what to avoid doing
-- in advance. She may tell you that she's uncomfortable with the idea of you penetrating
another woman or even pleasing another woman orally.

You must respect her limits. Remember that each woman may suddenly feel jealous, so try
your best not to shut either woman out and always give more attention to the woman with
whom you have a relationship -- this is an extremely important threesome rule.

As well, you may end up feeling jealous if you're not the center of attention. Just keep in mind
that the object of the game is to share sex between three people.

Also, remember that although some people try to drink their way to bravery for a threesome,
drunken sex usually ends up being bad sex. If you want to have a cocktail or two to loosen up,
that's fine, but no more. You want to be at peak performance.

Threesome rule no. 2
Be as giving as you can

Although you may be hoping that the two women will give you 100% of their attention, the
truth is that they're there to please each other just as much as they're there to please you.
You may end up feeling ignored and should do your best to get over it.

The best way to approach this situation, and an important threesome rule to follow, is to
forget your feelings for a moment and try to be as generous with your hands and mouth as
you can.

Pleasure in one-on-one sex goes back and forth, but in a threesome it's more of a cycle that
moves from person to person. So be patient; focus on turning both women on and the
attention will come back to you.

Whatever pleasure you get in a threesome is a treat, so instead of expecting anything in
particular (like getting oral sex from both women at once), enjoy everything that comes your
way.

Threesome rule no. 3
Keep yourself busy

When you find that both women are busy pleasuring each other and you have nothing to do,
keep yourself busy. Take matters into your own hands and find something to do.

Caress the breasts, thighs or vagina(s) of one or both women, kiss their backs or necks, or
give oral sex to one if she's in a position that allows you to (believe us, this will redirect
attention toward you in a hurry).

If you decide instead just to pleasure yourself for a little while, don't feel bad; the action will
come back to you soon enough.

Threesome rule no. 4
Be careful with penetration

Penetration is what novelist Tom Robbins calls "that old show-stopper." It automatically forms
a serious bond between you and one woman, leaving the other out. For this reason, penetrate
only when you're sure both women are comfortable with it.

Your natural inclination will be to pay close attention to the woman you're having sex with, but
you mustn't focus on her entirely. This is about the three of you, so keep that ideal close at
hand. Kiss and touch the other woman, look her in the eye, and talk to her if the mood is
appropriate.

Be aware that you may feel overwhelmed with pleasure if you're thrusting into one woman and
kissing and caressing another, meaning that you might climax more quickly than expected.
Take it slowly and pace yourself.

And don't get so excited that you lose track of the women: All three of you should be sexually
satisfied and, even if you achieve climax first, you must do everything you can to bring your
two partners to orgasm.

Threesome rule no. 5
Be safe

 Condoms are a necessity, obviously. Semen, vaginal fluid and menstrual blood transmit STDs,
so use one specific hand to pleasure one specific woman and use the other hand on the other
woman -- and keep it that way. You must never alternate.

Likewise, if you're having intercourse with both women, you must also use a separate condom
with each partner. As well, dental dams are a good precaution for oral sex. Lubricate the
side that you place against a woman's skin for better sensation.

By Sean Gilbert M. Rukundo

CEO & FOUNDER